I have been on and off here for some time now. I see some of the same faces I saw when I originally came here. At that time I had younger , and couldn't commit to a a full blown relationship. I have met some people here, some I've had monogamous relationships of multiple years. My are raised now and I have more freedom, yet I am a sexual person, and would want the same drive in a partner. I have had partners in the past where our needs differed greatly, and it wasn't the relationship I wanted/want. So, why are some of the same people still here? Are we that hard to deal with, do we run away when a relationship begins to look as though it might really work out, or do we just make poor choices in those we choose to enter a relationship with? I could definitely classify myself as case one, or case three. Case one, I hope is something of my past. Anyone who has been through a divorce that even if not dagger throwingly horrendous, is still stressful. Not having your in your free time, for me, was stressful. Now that they are raised, have their own life, and I really like the people they turned out to be, I'm much less stressed. Now it's just the ordinary everyday stresses, which really aren't that bad. I have also been guilty of case three. Wanting to be the knight in shining armor, the savior. Well, that only works if the person you are looking to save, wants saving. It's been a hard lesson to learn, but not everyone sees life the same.